For Better "I didnt sign up for " For Worse

Immediately what comes to mind when you see this, is marriage vows, which is absolutely right!! When I see the worse part my immediate thinking goes to “ Hey guess what, I didn’t sign up for this” Sad thing is yes I did.
I figured that the worse came later on in life not in the beginning, I seen it as everyone has a honeymoon period, But just wait why not the people that I know? Or is it just me? I think about this all the time, I now call it the Kim Kardashian because that’s exactly what you do , do when you aren’t happy and don’t have the strength to work it out. Who in their right mind wants to stick it out for the worse when you just keep getting worse on top of worse , on top of worse, drizzled in worse, with worse sprinkles on top , and the worst cherry in the world to top it off!!! Oh wait don’t forget your side of Worse ice cream. No one! Then you never stop to think well what is making this so worse? How can I make it better? Then you think when was it better? And How long has it been this Worse? All these questions begin to formulate in your head. Then you start to believe that it can’t get no better and this is the worse it’s ever been, so how much worse can it get before you lose yourself.

NOW STOP…..Think about this….

Most married couples who divorce are couples are in the midst of the sickness, poorer, and worse. The truth is that you signed up for whatever your marriage has thrown at you. The good, the bad, the ugly. The truth is that while you may be in a state of sickness, poorer, and worse right now it won’t always be that way. Truth is that you can do the work and make the effort to get your marriage back to a state of health, richer and better. If you choose to.
So, no matter what you are going through in your marriage today remember You did sign up for this!!

Getting Slapped By Reality!!!

Sometimes these things can just come out of nowhere, you’re not even prepared for what’s yet to come. But being slapped by your significant other or someone close to you is the slap that hurt the most. Its crazy because you dont expect it to happen, and you dont anticipate when it does happen how much it will hurt. Then the unthinkable comes BAM BOOM BANG SLAPPED and there you have it. You have been just slapped with a reality slap. There's nothing else like it because these are real, its not something you imagined, or yet conjured up in your head. It's actually happening to you in the flesh. No one knows how to stop these things because they are like indestructible creatures that no force can stop. The Best thing about getting slapped by reality is that you now know that your no different then anyone else. These things come at the worst time you can possibly think of, but there is always a way to reality slap it back... Think BIG!!!

Are you a Scab Picker??

Remember when you would fall when you were little and get a big nasty wound on your knee? Remember the process it took to heal and what we did when we thought that the coast was clear? Remember having a fresh scab on your knee and having the greatest urge to pick at it just to see what it looked like underneath? Remember once you pick the scab seeing the fresh white skin underneath, because little did you know it hadn’t healed properly? Remember waiting all over for it to scab up again only to pick the scab prematurely? Now look down at your knee and count how many scars you have all because of your sense of urgency to pick at your scab!!! We all did this when we were little and learned the hard way, I’m sure that if we could go back and rethink about the scabs we picked so the ugly scars we have wouldn’t be there we might have did things a little differently.
Now look at our lives now, how many of us pick at our scabs now (not literally) ? How many of us pick at other’s scabs just to see what we can uncover before it’s actually time to in uncover it? I believe this happens in relationships too often. Some of us tend to scab pick like it’s the greatest hobby in the world, others do it unconsciously and never know what they are actually doing it until months later they see the ugly scar that they have left behind. Wounds are be treated with care, putting a band aid on a wound that needs fresh air to heal can only prolong the healing process. Nurturing it and constantly looking after it makes that wound heal faster and better. Even when it is starts to scab up its better to continue nurturing the scab as it was a wound then trying to pick at it to see if its completely healed yet. Its always better to wait for the scab to fall of itself before ever picking at it. Let me guess how many of us listen to that???

Monkey in the Middle

Ever wonder will you will stop playing Monkey in the middle? Or Did you ever wonder when you will stop being the Monkey in the middle? Many people will remember this once as a childhood game and if you hated this game it was because you were always the Monkey in the middle. For some odd reason as we grow older this game tends to never stop. We always end up being the Monkey in the Middle , or the Jerks keeping the Monkey in the middle.
Did you ever stop to think that if you were the Monkey in the middle , how you could remove your self from this awful, tormenting game when you were little? Yeah our parents or others would say just quit or say you don’t want to play anymore, and you stop to think to yourself “ yeah that sounds like a great idea!!” Then you speak up and say that exact thing only to be told stop being a cry baby and just play the game. Well as adults its basically the same thing, you get tired of playing the Monkey in the middle , you speak up , only to be told just stick it out. Really in the end to only make matters worse is that you stick it out and continue to look like the fool!!