For Better "I didnt sign up for " For Worse

Immediately what comes to mind when you see this, is marriage vows, which is absolutely right!! When I see the worse part my immediate thinking goes to “ Hey guess what, I didn’t sign up for this” Sad thing is yes I did.
I figured that the worse came later on in life not in the beginning, I seen it as everyone has a honeymoon period, But just wait why not the people that I know? Or is it just me? I think about this all the time, I now call it the Kim Kardashian because that’s exactly what you do , do when you aren’t happy and don’t have the strength to work it out. Who in their right mind wants to stick it out for the worse when you just keep getting worse on top of worse , on top of worse, drizzled in worse, with worse sprinkles on top , and the worst cherry in the world to top it off!!! Oh wait don’t forget your side of Worse ice cream. No one! Then you never stop to think well what is making this so worse? How can I make it better? Then you think when was it better? And How long has it been this Worse? All these questions begin to formulate in your head. Then you start to believe that it can’t get no better and this is the worse it’s ever been, so how much worse can it get before you lose yourself.

NOW STOP…..Think about this….

Most married couples who divorce are couples are in the midst of the sickness, poorer, and worse. The truth is that you signed up for whatever your marriage has thrown at you. The good, the bad, the ugly. The truth is that while you may be in a state of sickness, poorer, and worse right now it won’t always be that way. Truth is that you can do the work and make the effort to get your marriage back to a state of health, richer and better. If you choose to.
So, no matter what you are going through in your marriage today remember You did sign up for this!!

Getting Slapped By Reality!!!

Sometimes these things can just come out of nowhere, you’re not even prepared for what’s yet to come. But being slapped by your significant other or someone close to you is the slap that hurt the most. Its crazy because you dont expect it to happen, and you dont anticipate when it does happen how much it will hurt. Then the unthinkable comes BAM BOOM BANG SLAPPED and there you have it. You have been just slapped with a reality slap. There's nothing else like it because these are real, its not something you imagined, or yet conjured up in your head. It's actually happening to you in the flesh. No one knows how to stop these things because they are like indestructible creatures that no force can stop. The Best thing about getting slapped by reality is that you now know that your no different then anyone else. These things come at the worst time you can possibly think of, but there is always a way to reality slap it back... Think BIG!!!

Are you a Scab Picker??

Remember when you would fall when you were little and get a big nasty wound on your knee? Remember the process it took to heal and what we did when we thought that the coast was clear? Remember having a fresh scab on your knee and having the greatest urge to pick at it just to see what it looked like underneath? Remember once you pick the scab seeing the fresh white skin underneath, because little did you know it hadn’t healed properly? Remember waiting all over for it to scab up again only to pick the scab prematurely? Now look down at your knee and count how many scars you have all because of your sense of urgency to pick at your scab!!! We all did this when we were little and learned the hard way, I’m sure that if we could go back and rethink about the scabs we picked so the ugly scars we have wouldn’t be there we might have did things a little differently.
Now look at our lives now, how many of us pick at our scabs now (not literally) ? How many of us pick at other’s scabs just to see what we can uncover before it’s actually time to in uncover it? I believe this happens in relationships too often. Some of us tend to scab pick like it’s the greatest hobby in the world, others do it unconsciously and never know what they are actually doing it until months later they see the ugly scar that they have left behind. Wounds are be treated with care, putting a band aid on a wound that needs fresh air to heal can only prolong the healing process. Nurturing it and constantly looking after it makes that wound heal faster and better. Even when it is starts to scab up its better to continue nurturing the scab as it was a wound then trying to pick at it to see if its completely healed yet. Its always better to wait for the scab to fall of itself before ever picking at it. Let me guess how many of us listen to that???

Monkey in the Middle

Ever wonder will you will stop playing Monkey in the middle? Or Did you ever wonder when you will stop being the Monkey in the middle? Many people will remember this once as a childhood game and if you hated this game it was because you were always the Monkey in the middle. For some odd reason as we grow older this game tends to never stop. We always end up being the Monkey in the Middle , or the Jerks keeping the Monkey in the middle.
Did you ever stop to think that if you were the Monkey in the middle , how you could remove your self from this awful, tormenting game when you were little? Yeah our parents or others would say just quit or say you don’t want to play anymore, and you stop to think to yourself “ yeah that sounds like a great idea!!” Then you speak up and say that exact thing only to be told stop being a cry baby and just play the game. Well as adults its basically the same thing, you get tired of playing the Monkey in the middle , you speak up , only to be told just stick it out. Really in the end to only make matters worse is that you stick it out and continue to look like the fool!!

Operation Appreciation

How much effort does it really take to show someone your appreciation ?? Is it that time consuming that you need to be reminded to make time for it? Or should it just come natural?
I get offended when people tend to take things for granted and act like thats what your suppose to do , so no need for them to show you any appreciation. They expect you to know that they appreciate you doing whatever you did for them. If thats the case whats the point of THANK YOU? If you know that the person knows your thankful for whatever you did for them , there is no need to say thank you.
The smallest gesture to show someone that you appreciate them , can be the biggest thing ever.

Like for instance i have a friend that feels that they dont need no help from anyone, they have built up some type of belief system that they are all good by themselves. But if you really think that whats the point of having friends?? If you dont need anyone to do anything for you , you might as well be by your damn self?? Right???

I dont need anyone to buy stuff for me or give me stuff but if they do i appreciate anything that i can get. Whether it be something purchased, some helpful advice or even just a helping hand with something. I feel that there is so much in this world that we cant do and thats the purpose of having people that can help you do it.

I have another friend that unconsciously thinks that this is how it should be and if they do shout you out every once in awhile that you should be thankful for that and appreciate that. I think its quite tickling that if people automatically stop doing stuff for this person they would think a tad bit different. I dont think i should have to change who i am just to teach you that you should be more appreciative. You should already know. But for some reason the world doesnt work like that.

So Operation Appreciation Begins ....
Everyone should always say thank you after anything is done for you and you should tell anyone that you think has stuck there neck out for you in the slightest way .." Hey I appreciate......" Its not that hard...
Try it and tell me how it works..

Who Determines your Happiness??

You do!! Its in the Palm of your hands and only at your disposal..

Many people always think that once your happy or you think that your happy that it stops there . Being happy is something you have to really want to be and its something that needs maintained at all times...One oz.. of someone's unhappiness can throw you off...Stay positive..

My Rock" named "Biggs "

Just letting you get to know my Inspiration and the Beat to my Heart...
If there was a perfect definition for him he would be in the Webster dictionary. Love of My Life, my best friend , Soul mate, and ..... Cant give you to much because have to leave something to the wondering mind.
I would have to say that it takes alot to deal with me in all aspects and i think this man is made out of the toughest steel in the universe because nothing seems to break him. I guess that's what makes him so special to me , it doesnt take much for him to make me smile or happy . You really cant asked for much when you have someone like him... I could go on for days about how great he is but ........ i wont..=)

Force of Words

In Pastor Kevin's Words
Your Words are like a Steering Wheel.. They guide you to the right or wrong direction.

What Kind of Force are my words creating?
"When some people speak they build mountains , when some people speak they move mountains." Which do you do ?
Words spoken are a creative...

He gave us 6 Rules to live by with our words...

1. Speak only to BUILD OTHERS UP
Eph 4:29
Be positive when speaking to others...

2. Speak without COMPLAINING & ARGUING
Phil 2:14
He said some people talk little but when they do talk they are always complaining about something or pointing out the negative in something. They never really know that they are a complainer because all they do is complain.

3. Dont Talk To MUCH
ECC 6:11
When talking to much the value of your words go down. Know when to shush sometimes =)

4. Speak without Gossiping
Prov 11:13Prov 16:28
Prov 26:20
We all are guilty of this....But when you listen to what you hear you become a part of it ...

5. Speak without CRITICIZING OTHERS
Luke 6:37
If its not your place to be speaking on it then don't , there is a big difference between constructive criticism and criticizing others.

6.Speak to the HIGHEST LEVEL OF YOUR FAITH
COR 4:13

Out with the Old in with the New

Sometimes you dont know how much of the old you have until you clean up. There can be so much from your past that your unconsciously holding on to. Really it has been ready to be dumped for some time now, so you can make more room for the new . It can be materialistic things, old thoughts, and old ways. Start fresh, make room for new things to enter your life. There is nothing like a fresh beginning especially if you have someone new in your life. Biggs and I just cleaned up our closet ,though he came in with not much i had alot to get rid of. After we made our room look like Hurricane Katrina had hit Washington ..lol it felt really good to get rid of old things. Biggs is the reserve type but today he let it be known that it was time for me to be out with the old and in with the New (Mr. Biggs)
Its 3am and i actually feel more refreshed than i have felt in a awhile...
No need to be holding on to things that you no longer have use for, Just get rid of it. You have plenty of time to accumulate more junk. Dont let it just be a New Years Resolution let it be something that is done all the time..
S/o to you ...Thanks Love .

Mr Biggs & Tiff

The Love of My Life.....More to come on this guy...